We constantly give and are asked too much of as people in today’s society. It starts from childhood. In school we’re forced into subjects we hate in order to do something “worthwhile” with our lives. A job that will allow us to live comfortably that we are guaranteed to hate. Hating your profession is accepted as inevitable. We work most of our lives! This theme carries on throughout our lives, constantly working for others, for someone else’s expectations of us, someone else’s idea of success. This system has never worked and never will.
In my opinion, putting yourself first, finding what you love to do and turning it into a profession you will enjoy is a great place to start. Whatever is needed to get there, no matter how “risky” it is. It will pay off if you work for it.
The same thing applies for everything in your life. Happiness is single handedly the most important thing. You seriously only get one shot at this. We’re not living it through someone else’s eyes. Listen to your mind and your body and do what makes you happy. It does NOT matter what it is.
There is no such thing as being selfish when it comes to your own life and your own happiness. If people think you’re being selfish, you don’t need them. You are the only person that knows what’s best for you.
You run your own life. I think we forget that. I think we forget that all of this is man-made. The government, politics, society, subjective norms, money… We’ve made it all up. We haven’t done it all right, I think that’s quite obvious. Go against what is “normal”. There is no such thing.
Your happiness is your priority. Do what will ensure that for you in every single aspect of your life and don’t you dare apologise for it.
Be selfish. Stop putting your needs aside for others. It will only make matters worse for you and others. Ignoring your needs and putting others before yourself may seem like the right solution or an easier solution for now but it will ALWAYS come back to bite you. When you ignore your needs, they will come out in other ways. Your mind and body have ways of getting around it.
Nothing is ever that bad. Something I always tell myself. EVERYTHING that happens in your life serves a purpose. Whether that be for happiness or to teach you a lesson, trust that you will benefit from it. The hardest times in your life will bring something beautiful into your life. What an amazing concept. Everything will be okay.
Think about your life, look at it. Are you living it for you? Are you honest with yourself about what you want and need? Are you in a relationship you know is wrong? How do your friends treat you? Are you putting others needs in front of yours?
Reflect on it all and make changes. You can be happy and DESERVE IT. It all starts with you. You don’t need anyone at all if they don’t make you happy. You are the most important person in your life. You are perfect the way you are, you were designed this way. LOVE IT. Why wouldn’t you.
Thank you for reading!
Mairi x
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